My baby ... beats. What to do! 
How wonderful the world of the internet, gives me the opportunity to ask questions and receive from other women, other mothers, or as In this case, persons responsible, answers that give me immediate relief. I had already noticed during pregnancy, when some of the symptoms I worry more 'than usual, a peek in the chat forum of the other parent was a great calming, and tonight that fateful situation here, me panting replies, it was resubmitted. I
a premise: since we arrived here we are presenting a rhythmic cadence, a situation which to me is a bit 'frustrating: Samuel hits other children.
In Switzerland, want to age too young compared to other children of Samuel, he was always in cash.
Since we arrived here it is as if he had decided to put into practice, without flinching and without any remorse, that 'who lived on their skin before.
Absolutely, its not an aggressive attitude of those with no other explanation than the fact that there are serious problems ahead, and, moreover, is not that the whole time he steps taken this action.
the surprise for me to see him take an action which, I must be honest, I was always a bit 'annoying when it was deemed addressed to him, had loved me in the thought that maybe it was the fact that we had moved to have induced him to react so '(all new, confused, and so on).
At the same time, however, 'comments, I was aware that at times his attitude was clearly a reference to the activity, his desire to play, maybe the other boy was not willing to please, or it was a way to show affection, in short, just happened and it happens without me dwell on it further, what this mother has described turning to the educator .
I will carry what 'because I read that maybe can' be of help to any of you that is experiencing the same situation.
My son, twenty months, an only child, a few months tends to lead hands (slaps, nudge ..) to kids, even when it does not suffer any "provocation" on their part. The slap is the gesture more frequently when a child comes near to the playground or on other occasions, that he offers him a slap sometimes it seems more an approach, a way of relating, to attract attention, other times it seems a way to express his discomfort or disinterest. Unfortunately, even when used with the hands prevented him from doing something and, in this case, with the clear intention to oppose, or to react to the imposition of the rule. We have tried to correct his aggressive behavior with gentle reproach, "do not you, Mom does not like, do away with a pat ...", or decision, sometimes with phrases like" Stop, you're hurting, "accompanied by a slap in the hand, the strategies used for some time, but to no avail. The child is grown up mainly with her mother, do not watch TV and do not attend Maneschi children. We are trying to enter the nest, two settiamane, in a private facility that houses a few children, 8 / 9 in all, with three teachers sweet. The introduction lasts three weeks, involves a stay of parent and child for an hour and a half hours per day and progressively longer small detachments from the third week. My son is beginning to participate in play activities with other children (slide, soap bubbles ...) but does not want to be left alone (naturalmente. ..). The teachers say it is normal that every child has its times. Yet there he gave up and flip a few teachers told him calmly that you do. It 'really embarrassing having to always forgive their parents of children victims of "advances" of my son, how frustrating it is subject to its output without knowing exactly what to do. Excuse me if I dwell on it. It gives me some advice?
The educator responds:
prejudice mother
first does not feel frustrated because it is a very normal behavior in the children of that age is a stage, as you rightly noted, is a little curiosity, a bit rebellious, a bit affection shown awkwardly. At school, surely the way he approaches the children will change and, gradually, with the advent of language, learning to explain, this attitude will fade. And remember that even the mothers who watch evil have experienced what she lives, because every child, some more than others, lived at this stage ... if you can "comfort" even my son (24 months) has lived the term "abusive", then the bites .. . but now speaks. is expressed and it is all past.
soon
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The blog from which I drew this discussion can be found here
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The answer does not reserve the pedagogy to be a practical solution, but it goes without saying that the fact that I'm more 'quiet, I will respond if an opportunity will present itself, in the most' appropriate with Samuel.
